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Potty Training #2: Hints & Tricks
« on: May 30, 2006, 12:19:35 PM » by sarahmontgomery

She is a little over two and does real well with wetting in the potty chair but will not do the other. I have potty trained three others but never had this problem. (boys) She will hold it for two and three days instead of going. I don't pressure her but I do sit in there and read books to her hoping she will give it up! So far, she hasn't. We are on day three this week. I know thats not good for her, any suggestions? Huh

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« Reply #1 on: May 30, 2006, 12:21:33 PM » by healthybratt

Quote from: sarahmontgomery on May 30, 2006, 12:19:35 PM

I let mine follow me into the bathroom and we both read books. This seem to put her at ease. I did have to follow her around a bit and watch for her to sneek -n- squat to get her to the bathroom at the appropriate time.

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« Reply #2 on: May 30, 2006, 12:40:38 PM » by still*learning

I had this very same issue last year with my daughter. It is so frustrating - especially when they will do the other on the potty with no problem.

Like HB, my daughter went at very certain times each day so that meant that I changed my routine to follow her around and get her on the potty when I saw the urge! I think that because doing that can at times be a little uncomfortable it is more scary to do that on the potty. After a couple of weeks (my daughter was also holding it as well) of sitting in the bathroom, following her around etc. I started to discipline her for not going on the potty. Being very consistent with that turned it around right away and she no longer went in her panties.

Make sure too that she is getting enough fiber so that doesn't contribute to making it uncomfortable to go. My daughter only had one set back after that and that was when she was constipated once. After that she was crying that she did not want to go and did a little in her pants. I tricked her and put it in the potty and showed it to her and told her that it did not hurt and that she did it! After that she was fine and we have not had another incident since.

Hope this helps!

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« Reply #3 on: May 30, 2006, 12:48:48 PM » by Gabriel Anast

One of ours was a little difficult as well. It seemed that this child even enjoyed all the attention of pooping in pants, getting cleaned, etc... so, I just started cleaning him with cold water. It was definitely a shocker, and after about 5 or so events where cold water was the answer, potty training was over!

--gabe

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« Reply #4 on: May 30, 2006, 01:36:05 PM » by PurplePen

I had the same problem with my 2 yr old daughter, and like Gabe said, the cold water bath was just the trick!!! I only had to do it about 4 or 5 times and now she's completely trained!

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« Reply #5 on: May 30, 2006, 04:43:00 PM » by CinCapri

We only had this problem with one of our children. He just would not go *poo* in the toilet. He would hold it and hold and hold it.

Then my husband and I stopped giving him all the attention he was getting from not going and when he'd say "my stomach hurts" we would only answer flatly, "You can go to the bathroom or I can go with you". After 3 or 4 days he said "I have to go!" and we rushed him in there and *whoosh* he went. And after that we never had another problem.

~Cinnamon

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« Reply #6 on: May 30, 2006, 06:05:56 PM » by mexmarr

Well, I can't help you any. My two year old has the opposite problem..... She has never wet in the toilet, but sometimes comes and asks to go poo-poo. She is still in diapers. I plan to start potty training in a couple of weeks. Hopefully, once the diapers are gone, she'll figgure out real quick that it it preferable to wet in the tiolet! I just ordered, "Potty Training in Less than a day." We'll see how that goes!

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« Reply #7 on: May 30, 2006, 06:31:28 PM » by felmleyfam

we tried it all with our two year old son, cold rinse for ten days, hosing outstide (even in the rain) and nothing worked until last week instead of rewarding him for pooping on the toilet I rewarded him for clean diapers! Treats like a vitamin C or dates or tea (when they don't get much sugar all these are great treats)have done the trick. Only a couple mistakes in the last week (and this from a child who had 4plus poopy diapers a day). Don't know if it will be the incentive your child needs but it was for mine.

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« Reply #8 on: May 30, 2006, 06:45:14 PM » by Maria/NHM

I had one younger brother that mom had a very tough time training. She tried hosing him down out doors in the fall and even that failed. She finally started having him clean out his own messy in diapers in the toilet. This seemed to be the incentive that he needed Sad

Another brother just couldn't seem to hold it until the next youngest started training. No way was he going to let little brother beat him! He self trained himself immediately Cheesy

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« Reply #9 on: May 30, 2006, 06:58:38 PM » by TwinkleToes

Boy do I know about this challenge! We just finally got our oldest going #2 in the toilet. (Oh, and she's almost 4!!!!) She refused and refused....and refused because she was "scared" -- terrified of it. She saved all her deposits for the diaper we gave her every night at bed time. She sure had us suckered for the longest time. I won't bore you with all the gymnastics we turned trying to convince her to go in the toilet, but now that we've finally achieved success it's like no big deal at all. She goes with complete ease!!!! I can't believe we let it go this long! What we did was tell her we were on our last box of diapers and then there would be no more. We prepared ourselves for her dirtying her bed as well as wetting the bed as we didn't have her night potty trained. I was sure she was going to explode 'cause she held it for so long even after I stuffed her with prunes for a day. Finally she succumbed and with no theatrics made her first #2 deposit in the toilet. We had to follow through on a promise made to buy her a toy of her choosing as a reward, so off we went to Walmart. Well, after getting her reward it was like she thought she didn't have to use the toilet anymore and started going in her undies. I didn't think I had the gumption to stick with the cold water cure, so I told her I would like her to please not go in her pants and I would need to take away her new toy if she did it anymore. Problem solved. It's been smooth sailing since then. One of my older, wiser friends told me she is sure this is a control issue. I tend to agree now that I'm on the other side of the struggle.

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« Reply #10 on: June 03, 2006, 07:08:55 AM » by jaemom

When I trained my son, he did the same thing. I wouldn't allow him undies or a diaper during the day because he would go in it. Day 3 he had to go so bad he begged me for a diaper. Cheesy

I just rushed him to the potty, and sat with him and played games and read books until he couldn't hold it anymore. He went and the rest is history. I think all kids initially have a hard time going #2 on the potty. He was potty trained #1 for months before that. My oldest daughter on the other hand wasn't completely potty trained until she was almost 5. I started when she was 18 months. I thought it was a control issue and still think part of it was, but when she was 4 she had a kidney infection caused by a UTI. Some of her wetting issues was it actually hurt to go pee and she didn't want to go at all, not just on the potty. She has had several UTI's, but now I know what to look for and we treat it at home. She hasn't had one at all in six months because of a change in diet and probiotics. It just seemed like every time we made progress, she'd get a UTI and we'd be back to the beginning again. I was beginning to think I'd still be potty training her when she was 16. Shocked

Because of the struggle I had with her, I am starting my 1 yr old on Monday. Hopefully she'll be a lot easier and faster.

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« Reply #11 on: June 03, 2006, 08:58:05 AM » by KatieMac

My three year old JUST potty trained within a weeks time...we had a little miracle where the poopys are concerned. He hadn't wanted to poop there either. One morning he sat down and the INSTANT he sat down his poop came out. Ever since then things have been smooth sailing. Too bad that isn't the type of thing you can plan for or expect, but I'm grateful it happenend!

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« Reply #12 on: July 14, 2006, 09:47:49 AM » by sarahmontgomery

My two year old does wonderful with #1 but she held #2 for seven days last week, was miserable so I gave her an enema. She went four times that night and once more the next day. She is now on day 6. Here we go again.... I don't want to do enemas but I don't want her to have all those toxins in her body either. I am giving her prune juice everyday, rubbing warm olive oil on her tummy 3 times a day. I was told this keeps the BM soft. I have praised her and praised her when she does go, but still she holds it! If she doesn't like the look of the toilet even, she wont go. Talk about strong will. Any suggestions?

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« Reply #13 on: July 14, 2006, 09:52:05 AM » by babymakers

It sounds like you are doing a great job already. Just be persistent and patient. I know you don't want those toxins in your child but it won't stay like that once you have her going on the toilet regularly. Just persist....and win....you can do it!!

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« Reply #14 on: July 14, 2006, 11:53:33 AM » by floydian

If you have older kids, let her see that they have gone poo poo on the toilet (after the fact) and reward with several M&M's or a treat. Also let her come in the bathroom with you after you have pooped. Reward yourself with several M&M's Grin

. Tell her she can have the treat too if she poops in the right spot. Talk about how wonderful the candy is "Mmmmm, these are soooo good, I wish you could have some, as soon as you poop in the right spot, you can!!" Tell the older ones to rub it in a little too. Give much praise to yourself and the older ones. Take away all fun treats, fruit she really likes, candy, fruit drinks until she poops in the right spot. This worked for 2 of ours.

With one of our sons, my husband took him in the bathroom with him once while going. He told me after that our son cheered for him after he pooped. "Oh wow Dad, yea, that's a biiiiig one." I had to explain we had been doing that with him lately for extra encouragement. My husband was more than a little amused. You might not want your daughter saying such things, but the boys think it's cool. It's a guy thing I guess Huh

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« Reply #15 on: July 15, 2006, 02:22:48 PM » by Anneatheart

So what do you do when you have a 2.5 year old dd that understands pee, pooping and sitting on the potty, but won't sit on it? My dd totally gets it, but will not GO on the potty and will hardly sit there long enough without crying. I've never potty trained before and I'm not sure what to do. I also have a 3.5 year old unpottytrained dd that's a bit delayed developmentally and her doctor said until she could talk that she wouldn't potty train. So I'm stuck...also, they are very regular, so with my 4 month old I can change up to 7 poopie diapers in a day, maybe more.

And if you are trying to train a child, how do you work it all in with taking care of the other kids and stuff? I can never remember to take them to the potty because I get so busy.

Sorry to hijack the thread...

Jessica, and three in diapers Sad

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« Reply #16 on: July 15, 2006, 11:41:59 PM » by healthybratt

Read some of the previous suggestions. I merged two topics together and there are many suggestions in the earlier posts.

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« Reply #17 on: July 16, 2006, 02:30:24 PM » by Honey Bee

For me, I set my microwave timer to the appropriate interval AND when my 2 yob has succeess on the potty and my 4 1/2 yob cheers, they both get a treat(keeps the older one close and teaches them to encourage one another)

When I run errands, I have my little potty seat in the van and at the appropriate time, I set my 2 yob on it. Or if we're in a store, we use that bathroom. Being consistent when you are out and about really helps.

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« Reply #18 on: July 16, 2006, 07:46:02 PM » by healthybratt

Quote from: Honey Bee on July 16, 2006, 02:30:24 PM

I LOVE LOVE LOVE this idea. Thanks for sharing it with us. Grin

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« Reply #19 on: July 18, 2006, 02:17:11 AM » by CinCapri

Quote from: Anneatheart on July 15, 2006, 02:22:48 PM

And if you are trying to train a child, how do you work it all in with taking care of the other kids and stuff? I can never remember to take them to the potty because I get so busy.

Sorry to hijack the thread...

Jessica, and three in diapers Sad

I can totally understand getting too busy to remember to take a child to the bathroom. I have 8 kiddos, ages 2 to 17. All but one is potty trained. Usually when I'm too busy is when I'm trying to do too much. To help me re-focus I start doing crock pots for most meals, I stream line all outside activities and do not answer the phone. Then I can focus on the kids, enjoying the kids and not getting overwhelmed. I've spent so much of my time hurrying the kids from here to there, neglecting my husband, complaining about what I "had" to do that I missed the beauty of opportunity God gave me to be a mom and a wife. I've slowed down as much as a mom of 8 can and it's much more enjoyable.

When kids are young, as yours are, it can seem very overwhelming. I had so many people tell me, enjoy this time it'll be over soon. Boy were they right. Luckily I have the best of both worlds. I've seen where I missed the ball with my older ones but still have younger ones to practice on :-) God is gracious.

I would encourage you to breath, smile and pray. Let God direct your day and you can't go wrong.

Oh and they will be potty trained one day........that you can count on :-)

~Cinnamon

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« Reply #20 on: July 18, 2006, 02:13:22 PM » by MammaD

(Moms and Dads, if you think it's constipation...)

My daughter also had issues with poop during potty training too. She was constipated from holding back so much, so once I figured that out, we gave her some probiotics which helps keep the small intestine healthy. I use Primadophilus by Nature's way. It's in powder form and once I gave that to her in juice or milk, her poops were regular and bountiful. We have also been giving her flax seed oil since birth and that has somewhat of a laxitive effect. It is also excellent for their immunity.

I hope everything comes out ok!

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« Reply #21 on: September 10, 2006, 11:37:28 PM » by Grace

OK, So Finally my 2 1/2 year old is going in her potty chair. I give her a little treat after she goes. This is the first day. How long do you keep up giving her a treat?

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« Reply #22 on: September 10, 2006, 11:46:39 PM » by InEverything

Quote from: Grace on September 10, 2006, 11:37:28 PM

OK, So Finally my 2 1/2 year old is going in her potty chair. I give her a little treat after she goes. This is the first day. How long do you keep up giving her a treat?

I was always worried I'd be giving them a treat when they were 12! When they started going on the toilet well on a regular basis I would casually say "oh I'll give you a treat after dinner" and I would just give them one treat a day until they forgot about it.

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« Reply #23 on: August 13, 2007, 08:56:48 PM » by ShabbyChic

I'm not sure how she responds to sp@nks, but my 16 month old became more stubborn and strong willed the more I used those. I have found that he responds best to a firm stare in the eye and a calm, matter of fact tone of voice. That tells him I mean business.

When I was potty training my now 3 year old, I gave him a cold shower to wash off the poop, and he only got 2 of those before he started going in the potty. You might try that.

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« Reply #24 on: August 13, 2007, 09:15:40 PM » by skelliott2

I read a book about potty training your child in a day! I haven't tried it yet, but I got two great ideas! The first one was to reward the child for dry pants! I always rewarded for going potty, and it didn't work very well, but the book said to check them every 15 minutes or so, and if the pants were dry, then reward. My sister tried this with her son, and it worked!

Another good idea in the book is to practice when they have an accident. You talk to them quietly and firmly and tell them that since they missed the potty, they will have to practice going in the potty. Then you start them in one room, like the family room, walk them to the potty, make them sit on it, then get up and go to another part of the house, like the bedroom. Then walk them back to the bathroom, make them sit on the potty again. They won't like the practicing. The book said to make them practice 10 times in a row! Then, after practicing, check for dry pants periodically and reward for that. I thought it sounded like a great idea. I'm going to try it with my daughter soon. Hope this helps!

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« Reply #25 on: August 13, 2007, 09:17:45 PM » by ShabbyChic

My mom potty trained my sister and me (6 years apart) in one day at age 12 mos. So it can be done with a willing child. I do think this is exceptional. But I have 2 boys, so I don't know...

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« Reply #26 on: August 14, 2007, 06:41:01 AM » by diaperswyper

Hang in there. I know the frustrations, but eventually they will get trained. We had a couple that i tried right around two yrs, and i was very determined. After all, my mom trained all of us at 2 and i had friends that did too. Well...........the one was 3 til he was totally trained. We moved twice in that yr and got born again that yr, so we had gone through a lot. I think i've learned, Undecided

that when i get to the point that i don't want to see the child wake up because i'm dreading the potty, to back off and give it a try a couple months later. Invariably, it works. They train almost immediately. It could be she's plain down not ready yet.

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« Reply #27 on: August 14, 2007, 10:32:49 AM » by healthybratt

For those of you who are new with our forum. I would lkike to point out that we do not condone, nor encourage conversation about spanking or corporal punishment.

Here's a thread with more information. I urge you to read it.

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« Reply #28 on: August 14, 2007, 10:41:02 AM » by Mama Sita

Quote from: Anneatheart on July 15, 2006, 02:22:48 PM

You hang in there because this, too, shall pass!! Grin

All too quickly, I might add!!
I had 3 in diapers, also (ages 3,2,1 and a newborn). That newborn is now 9 years old and I long to be able to change diapers again. I barely remember all those diapers now (and yes, they were cloth).

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« Reply #29 on: August 28, 2007, 03:34:43 PM » by mamanabb

well I am glad to hear that I am not the only one that has problems potty training. I am close to the my end and maybe should just back off for a while. We have tried everything it seems with my 3yo dd and nothing has given her motivation to put her #2 in the toilet! She will do #1 most of the time with only gentle reminders to keep it dry but I wonder if she is just scared to #2. She will push out just a little to get the praise and then say she is all done. We have made her sit and sit and sit and sit and nothing until she gets the diaper on! I don't know what to do! I have successfully trained 3 others but can't manage to get her trained. Any suggestions are welcome. I have read through several of the threads here and have tried pretty much all of it.

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